On days like today with so many questions and attitudes around us, it becomes increasingly difficult to know if there is maturity in some people or in ourselves.
If you want to know some indicators, here is a list of attitudes of a mature person:
Is when you stop trying to change people, and instead focus on changing yourself. Is when you accept the people for who they are. Is when you understand that everyone is right in their own perspective. Is when you learn to “let go”. Is when you do not create “expectations” in a relationship, do for the pleasure of doing, without charging the return. Is when you understand that, whatever you do, you do for your own peace. Is when you stop proving to the world how smart you are. Is when you focus on positive people. Is when you do not seek the approval of others. Is when you stop comparing yourself to others. It is when you are at peace with yourself. Is when you can differentiate between “need” and “wanting”, is that you can give up something you want in favor of something relevant or important. Is when you stop attaching “happiness” to material things. Do you believe there is a certain age for maturity to be achieved? Could it be at 30? 40? 60 years? In contact with many people, it is increasingly noted that age is little or nothing related to it.
Here are 25 tips that will make it easier to reach maturity, a path perhaps to happiness:
Realize how much you still do not know about everything. Listen more and talk less. Be aware and consider what others in opposition say, without internalizing. Do not make it personal, get offended easily, or feel the need to defend or offend, prove something or make excuses for yourself. Be grateful and gracious without complaining or belittling. Take responsibility for your own health and happiness, do not count on others to “fix” you, or blame your circumstances. Have forgiveness and compassion for yourself and others. Be calm and peaceful, not desperate, frantic or irrational. Show flexibility and less resistance, control irrational being. Helping yourself, do not expect others to do this for you, for a sense of entitlement. Do good deeds without expecting anything in return, being selfless. Respect the point of view of other people, beliefs and way of life without judgment, not insist that you are right, disparaging the other, or using profanity or violence to get your point. Sharing your good fortune with others, being less selfish, does not necessarily have to be money. Being able to turn away without wanting to harm another person. Think before you act and have good manners, do not come out shooting, attacking, or being rude. Encourage and support others. Find joy in someone’s success, not envy or criticism. Knowing that there is always room to grow and improve, and seek help when needed. Have humility and laugh at yourself. Recognizing what is not working in your life and make an effort to do something different. Let go of instant gratification in favor of long-term benefits (health, family, travel). Accept, like and love yourself, not needing someone to “complete” you. Stand up against injustice for yourself and others by choosing the right thing to do. Make sacrifices for the good of others without resentment. Do not cling to materialistic attachments, attaching happiness to them, or boast of them to others.
Text adapted from Hillary Swang, works on “Writers and Authors”, written on March 14, 2016.